How Much Is A Mother Worth Anyway?
To those who struggle with infertility or must work outside of the home, I realize this is a sensitive topic. This is in no way meant to heap more guilt or pain upon you, friend. During these times, we must trust that the Lord has a plan and knows exactly what He’s doing. My heart goes out to you, dear one, and I’m specifically praying for you right now.
Recently, I found this quote on Facebook:
“Just a Mom?…..I don’t understand it when people say, “Your just a mom.” Yes, I am a Mom! That makes me an alarm clock, cook, maid, waitress, teacher, nurse, referee, handyman, security officer, photographer, counselor, chauffeur, event planner, hairdresser, personal assistant, ATM, & I scare away the boogie man. I don’t get paid holidays, sick pay, or days off. I am on call 24/7 for the rest of my life. And that’s just BEING A MOM!! I may not be anything to you, but I am everything to someone!”
After not being able to conceive until I was 39, it really hurt to have to explain to my co-workers why I wanted to be ‘just a Mom’!
“Why are you quitting nursing and throwing away all that education? You’re dumping such a wonderful job! Certainly you will want to come back to work…”
the only photo I know of the OR years (taken in the 70s)
My whole body ached for children, and my biological clock was ticking away. Our home was so quiet, and though we would have been ‘OK’ if it was truly not the Lord’s will for us to have children, I couldn’t deny the deep desire to use the gifts of nurturing and teaching that He had placed in my heart.
I’d already been working 20 years in the medical field before I left to try to carry our first child to term – we’d just lost this babe’s twin half way through the pregnancy, and I needed to get off my feet. Somehow, I knew I wouldn’t go back.
Compared to what I earned as a well-paid surgical, and later, private nurse, I believe being a mother is worth infinitely more than any money I could have earned in my ‘professional’ working years. I am 60 something now, my earning days are over, but the worth of being a Mother just doesn’t stop!
The annual job-market value of the role of a mother has increased to nearly $803,000, according to financial advisor Ric Edelman’s Annual Mother’s Day Index. Edelman has been compiling the annual study for ten years. The basis of the index is that the typical mom actually does many jobs: 17 of them.
The average multi-tasking mom routinely is expected to:
- provide transportation, help with and direct yard work, assist with homework (include lesson planning and teaching if you home-educate), and develop relationships with individual children
- do laundry, facilitate ministry, support the family economy, be there in big and little ways
- train in personal habits, order and clean the house, provide outside enrichment and socialization
- cook meals, facilitate time with grandparents, maintain order and discipline, keep family on schedule
…not to mention dispensing homemade remedies and nursing care, attend meetings and functions, listening to and resolving family problems, helping manage family finances, and caring for pets!
The occupations which compose the Annual Mother’s Day Index and their corresponding median annual salaries are:
a. Animal Caretaker $29,920
b. Chef $37,880
c. Computer Systems Analyst $72,230
d. Financial Manager $101,450
e. Food/Beverage Service Worker $19,360
f. General Office Clerk $25,200
g. Registered Nurse $59,730
h. Management Analyst $77,270
i. Child Care Worker $18,820
j. Housekeeper $18,700
k. Psychologist $66,110
l. Bus Driver $33,050
m. Elementary School Principal $79,200
n. Dietitian/Nutritionist $47,890
o. Property Manager $52,290
p. Social Worker $40,640
q. Recreation Worker $22,950
So don’t call your husband over to the computer screen to see how much you’re really worth financially. A good employee doesn’t tout their worth to the company executives. Allow the Lord to show your husband your true worth, both financially and spiritually.
Now, let’s see what the mother’s spiritual worth is. If you are striving to live these out with the help of the Lord, you are even more valuable – priceless beyond telling and worth more than any amount of money or things. Here are a noteworthy few from Proverbs 31 :
She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy (vs. 20)
She ‘wears’ strength and dignity – she smiles (joyful?) at the future (vs. 25)
She inspires her children, her husband to praise her (vs. 28)
She fears the Lord (vs. 30)
So instead of believing that you are ‘just a Mom’, I pray that you, dear Mother, would see the priceless treasure you are and the opportunity that you hold in your hands before it is too late. You may not believe it or see it now, but trusting God through the struggle will ultimately bless your family more than any other single thing you could ever do! Stand firm and do not fear!
“Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her…” ~Proverbs 31: 28
Oh, Mothers of young children, I bow before you in reverence. Your work is most holy. You are fashioning the destinies of immortal souls. The powers folded up in the little ones that you hushed to sleep in your bosoms last night, are powers that shall exist forever. You are preparing them for their immortal destiny and influence. Be faithful. Take up your sacred burden reverently. Be sure that your life is sweet and clean. ~ JR Miller
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