History Of Chronic Pain? Think Lyme Disease

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History Of Chronic Pain? Think Lyme Disease

Do you have a long history of health issues with symptoms that change daily or monthly, but never go away? Think Lyme disease until proven otherwise. 

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A recent question I received:

“I am a 38 year old mother of 4, and my life hasn’t been normal since 2007. I used to run 3-4 times a week and felt very fit.  All of a sudden, I developed inability to multi-task, painful joints, vertigo, severe headaches and what I would describe as chronic fatigue.  I’ve gone to numerous doctors for a whole string of symptoms including night sweats, double vision, brain fog, and unexplained rashes.  Last week, my sister told me to look up “Lyme Disease,” and I did. It explained my life! I called a doctor friend, but he said Lyme isn’t common in this area, so I have no idea what to do now. Can you give me some direction?” ~J.T.

My answer: I have long had an interest in Lyme Disease because of friends battling it, and I have been exploring this in my own life, but I am not an expert or a doctor. That said, these are some things I have learned that I can share for you to explore:

Who?

There are many Lyme-literate medical doctors (LLMDs) in the U.S., and here are several people who educate: Dr. Lee Cowden, Dr. Joseph Burrascano, Dr. Joseph Jemsek, and Stephen Harrod Buhner; each has a very different perspective. The controversy surrounding Lyme is ongoing.

What?

Lyme is often misdiagnosed or dismissed. A common theme is chronic pain. It can mimic multiple sclerosis, Rheumatoid arthritis, Parkinson’s, ALS, Alzheimer’s, fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, and epilepsy – so it’s a puzzle. That’s awful, because if you’re diagnosed incorrectly, opportunity is missed and precious anti-microbials needed to kill Lyme bugs are never taken, leading to potentially catastrophic problems. Not to be dramatic or anything, just ask a Lyme sufferer!

According to my research, no two patients have the same symptoms, which come and go: poor memory, exhaustion, brain fog, loss of balance, insomnia, yeast infections, twitches, numbness in extremities, loss of muscle strength, anxiety, back/neck pain, neuropathy, migraines, dizziness, muscle/joint pain, cramps, bladder or testicular pain, urethritis, buzzing, depression and mood swings, sound sensitivity, eye or ear pain, and irregular heartbeat. And there’s so much more.

You hear about a tick bite followed by a bulls-eye rash. That rash only occurs in 50 percent of people, and most won’t ever see a tick since they can be as small as the point of a very small pin. Although you won’t find much to back this up online, I fully believe Lyme is also transmitted by mosquitoes and other biting insects. Same with kissing or having sex with someone who has Lyme. Babies contact it from mother while in utero. Often it remains dormant for months to years.

Now What?

If you have a long history of health issues, with symptoms that change daily or monthly, but never go away, I’d seriously consider Lyme testing by a lab that specializes in it, for example Igenex, Fry, or Advance Labs. Inaccurate results by regular labs may produce a false negative, so you think you don’t have Lyme when you do. Years of confusion and grief would follow. The extra expense seems worth it.

Lyme infection is not just caused by Borrelia burgdorferi, but it is a co-infection of many organisms such as Babesia, Rickettsia, Bartonella, Ehrlichia, or Epstein-Barr behind the many and varied symptoms. The recommended labs above are better at detecting these bugs.  Finally, the “CD57” blood test offers a clue, and tracks your progress, and I recommend LabCorp for that particular test.

Under Our Skin – Horror to Hope

I’d recommend watching Under Our Skin 1 (2009) and follow it up with the trailer of Under Our Skin 2 (2014). Most likely, if you have Lyme’s these videos will clear up much of the mystery and help you make sense of it.

Our family has chosen to take Monolaurin, Bio-Fibrin, and Banderol as part of a long term treatment and maintenance.

Disclaimer: This information is for educational purposes only. The statements made here have not been approved by the Food and Drug Administration and they are not intended to diagnose, prescribe, treat, or cure or prevent any disease or injury. Don’t take my word for it…you should always engage conventional wisdom and consult with your medical professional to determine potential drug interactions and safety of use.

Suzy Cohen, author of this article writes extensively about Lymes. 
Visit ilads.org for more Lyme information.

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Boys Think and Process Differently Than Girls

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Boys Think and Process Differently Than Girls

I share this important guest post by homeschool mom Michelle Caskey (with her permission) because we both want to encourage and inspire you as you homeschool, or consider homeschooling, your boys.

I just finished reading some eye-opening books by Dr. Leonard Sax:  Why Gender Matters and Boys Adrift. I was amazed to learn that boys have many physical and mental differences from girls.  These books include scientific evidence showing that boys not only behave differently than girls, they also hear differently, see differently, think differently, and respond to stress differently.

The things boys can learn are very similar, but the way they go about learning is very different. Boys require a very different educational environment and teaching approach if we are going to help them reach their full potential.

Boys SEE Differently

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Males have more rods in their eyes versus cones. Rods help us to see distance and speed. Females have more cones than rods. Cones help us to see color and shape. Because of this difference, boys tend to draw verbs with little color variation in their pictures while girls tend to draw nouns with lots of different colors.

When asked to draw a picture, Sally will draw a house with people and flowers and lots of pretty colors. Steve will draw a tornado which is knocking down a house – and his picture will look like a large black swirl.

 Implications for teaching boys

  • Do not expect boys to draw something recognizable or to draw something with lots of colors. When we find fault in this way, boys begin to think that art is for girls and not for boys.
  • Allow them to draw verbs and to do it in a way that is fast and furious.
  • Don’t hold eye contact with a boy unless you’re disciplining him.

Boys HEAR Differently

Baby girls can hear ten times better than boys, and this difference gets even worse as they get older. Boys can only hear every 3rd word or so of soft-spoken teachers. When boys can’t hear what their teacher is saying, they tend to drift off – getting some boys the incorrect diagnosis of ADHD.

Boys also tend to make little noises wiggling and tapping pencils which are irritating to girls – but they don’t even realize they are making them.

 Implications for teaching boys

  • Speak more loudly than you normally would and be very expressive.
  • Use lots of voice fluctuation and hand motions to engage boys.
  • While working with your son, sit down next to him, spread the materials out and look at them shoulder to shoulder.

Boys THINK Differently

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We don’t know all of the differences in how boys and girls think but we now know that their brains are arranged differently. We’ve all heard that we use the left side of our brain for verbal activities and the right side for art. Actually, we now know that this is only true in males.

Males who have a stroke on the left side of their brain lose 80% of their verbal ability. The verbal ability in females who have a stroke on the left side of their brain is much less impacted, proving that their verbal ability is spread across both sides of their brain.

There are many other differences in how male and female brains are arranged. For more details, check out Dr. Sax’s books.

 Implications for teaching boys

  • Book learning is essential; but, without practical, hands-on experience, boys will hard a hard time grasping concepts that seem simple to us. They will disengage from their lessons.
  • Boys need real world experiences in their education which engage all of their senses.
  • Boys also need plenty of time outdoors.
  • Boys have a hard time processing their emotions. Don’t ask boys “How would you FEEL if…” questions. Ask them “What would you DO if…” questions.
  • Boys like to have at least some control over their environments. Put each day’s schoolwork into a folder and let them decide the order in which they will complete it.

When studying literature, try these tips:

  • Have boys draw maps based on clues in the book.
  • Assign articles from the daily newspaper.
  • Have them read books with strong male characters doing unpredictable things (i.e., C.S. Lewis, Hemingway, Dostoevsky, Twain, etc.)

Boys SEE THEMSELVES differently

Girls tend to underestimate their own abilities. Boys tend to overestimate their own abilities. Boys also enjoy taking risks much more than do girls. The more a boy takes risks the more favorably they are seen by their peers.

Danger itself gives boys a pleasant feeling of exhilaration as opposed to the fearful feelings it causes in girls. Moderate stress also helps boys to perform better as adrenaline causes more blood to flow to their brain. Stress has the opposite effect on girls.

 Implications for teaching boys

  • Boys respond well to a challenge if there are winners and losers.
  • A competitive team format works better than individual competitions for boys because they don’t want to let their teammates down.
  • Participating in single-sex activities such as boy scouts or team sports are very good for your sons.

If your son seems to crave danger, take these necessary steps:

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  • Give them lessons with a professional (i.e., skiing) to help them to more accurately evaluate their own abilities.
  • Supervise your child. Their risk is lower if they aren’t allowed to be alone with groups of peers because they will be less likely to try to “show off” for their friends if an adult is present.
  • Assert your authority – don’t argue with your son. Don’t negotiate. Just do what you have to do (i.e., lock up their bike.)

By the way, the optimum temperature for learning for boys is 69 degrees, while it is 74 degrees for girls. If you set the temperature so that it is comfortable for you, you may find your sons falls asleep or their minds wandering instead of focusing on their lessons.

If you have the opportunity to set up a single-sex learning environment for your children that works well. Try using different methods to teach your sons as opposed to the ones you use to teach your girls and you will be amazed at how your sons respond to your efforts!

Armed with this knowledge, we can set up more ideal learning environments where we can engage our sons and help them to reach their full potential. For more information, check out Dr. Sax’s books in the Parent Helps section of our bookstore.

Question:  Were you aware of these differences in boys?  What changes have you adopted which have better helped your son to learn?  Please comment below.

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Hi, I’m Michelle. Being a mom to boys can be hard! Homeschooling boys can be even harder, but I’m here to tell you that having sons is a blessing – and it is possible to connect with them and to enjoy spending your days with them.  My desire is that Homeschool-Your-Boys will be a place where parents can be inspired to teach their sons in an environment which will most engage their minds and their hearts.

Click on Michelle’s profile photo to go to Homeschool-Your-Boys! This insightful blog is a treasure trove!

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Elisabeth Elliot: Her Life, Books, and Best Quotes

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Elisabeth Elliot: Her Life, Books, and Best Quotes

Authentic. Wise. Gifted. Fearless. Strong. Passionate. Compelling. Faith-filled. These adjectives barely begin to describe beloved missionary and author Elisabeth Elliot who, for over 60 years, made a significant impact through the astounding stories of her life and experience of losing two husbands.

Early in the morning of June 15, 2015, this much-loved Christian pioneer and missionary, went home to be with her Savior. In that twinkling-of-an-eye her lifelong passion and rugged obedience saw their fulfillment in Christ’s presence, and I am overjoyed for her!

But on the other hand, here I sit saying a goodbye with tears in my eyes to one of my most dear friends and mentors. I cannot fully express her influence on me.

Many of us became acquainted with Elisabeth Elliot through her story and work with the Auca Indians. In the 80s as a new believer, I read Through Gates of SplendorThe Shadow of the Almighty, and The Savage My Kinsman and learned what sacrifice, commitment, radical obedience really looked like. Young Jim and Elisabeth Elliot gave me a skin-on, flesh-and-blood example of people in my generation who were willing to give their all to Jesus.

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Jim was so committed to sharing Christ’s love he told Elisabeth (Betty) he had decided never to marry. Somehow in God’s economy, though, finding the right woman changed all that. After years of friendship with her, he realized that her longing to serve God was as deep as his, and so they married, eager for a lifetime of ministry together.

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It seemed God’s plans were stopped when Jim was murdered on that beach in the Ecuadorian Amazon jungle by the Indians along with 4 other dedicated young men trying to reach them for Christ. Still, Betty accepted it as God’s will for her and their 10 month old daughter Valerie. Widowhood arrived only 3 years into their marriage.

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What she did next was something others thought foolhardy or crazy, even unthinkable. Focused on continuing the work her husband had barely begun, she took little Valerie and left for the same tribe that speared her husband Jim. This riveting story has been told in books, magazines (LIFE, Readers Digest-August, 1956), and through a feature film.

I can’t imagine Betty was anything but terrified as she and her little girl made their way through that dense, remote jungle in Ecuador. She wanted not only to see where her husband died, but she wanted to meet the men who killed him. But she reported to experiencing no fear! With her she took two invaluable things: an unshakable belief in the sovereignty of God and her camera.

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Elisabeth and her daughter Valerie eventually lived and loved the tribe that speared her husband. Her life painted a picture of forgiveness to the world.

Her incredible wisdom was forged by the costly journey through great pain in this life, and now we have the benefit of gleaning rich nuggets of truth from her experiences. What great evidence that God still uses all we walk through in this world for greater purposes and good – so much more than we could possibly ever imagine.

Themes that permeate the writings of Elisabeth Elliot are those truths we still need reminded of in our world today – God’s all-encompassing love, contentment, finding joy in the midst of sorrow, faith, courage, and hope.

Quotable Elisabeth Elliot

“We are not meant to die merely in order to be dead. God could not want that for the creatures to whom He has given the breath of life. We die in order to live.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ’s Control

“The routines of housework and of mothering may be seen as a kind of death, and it is appropriate that they should be, for they offer the chance, day after day, to lay down one’s life for others. Then they are no longer routines. By being done with love and offered up to God with praise, they are thereby hallowed as the vessels of the tabernacle were hallowed–not because they were different from other vessels in quality or function, but because they were offered to God. A mother’s part in sustaining the life of her children and making it pleasant and comfortable is no triviality. It calls for self-sacrifice and humility, but it is the route, as was the humiliation of Jesus, to glory.” ― Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman

“The fact that I am a woman does not make me a different kind of Christian, but the fact that I am a Christian makes me a different kind of woman.” ― Elisabeth Elliot

“When obedience to God contradicts what I think will give me pleasure, let me ask myself if I love him.” ― Elisabeth Elliot

“I am not a theologian or a scholar, but I am very aware of the fact that pain is necessary to all of us. In my own life, I think I can honestly say that out of the deepest pain has come the strongest conviction of the presence of God and the love of God.  ― Elisabeth Elliot

“To those of us who are not theologians, does it matter whether a thing is ordained or merely allowed? Are events that seem out of control caused by God? Or does He allow them to occur at the hands of human beings? You can spend a lot of time pondering that one and end up pretty much where you started. In either case, the purpose remains the same – our sanctification. God is in the business of making us walking, breathing examples of the invisible reality of the presence of Christ in us.” ― Elisabeth Elliot, Be Still My Soul

“You can never lose what you have offered to Christ.” ― Elisabeth Elliot, Keep a Quiet Heart

“Faith does not eliminate questions. But faith knows where to take them.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, A Chance to Die: The Life and Legacy of Amy Carmichael

“Of one thing I am perfectly sure: God’s story never ends with ‘ashes’.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, These Strange Ashes

“The Word of God I think of as a straight edge, which shows up our own crookedness. We can’t really tell how crooked our thinking is until we line it up with the straight edge of Scripture.” ― Elisabeth Elliot

“Restlessness and impatience change nothing except our peace and joy. Peace does not dwell in outward things, but in the heart prepared to wait trustfully and quietly on Him who has all things safely in His hands.” ― Elisabeth Elliot

“…my plea is let me be a woman, holy through and through, asking for nothing but what God wants to give me, receiving with both hands and with all my heart whatever that is.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman

“When the time comes to die, make sure that all you have to do is die!”
~Jim Elliot 
― Elisabeth Elliot, The Journals of Jim Elliot

“Women still dream and hope, pin their emotions on some man who doesn’t reciprocate, and end up in confusion.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Passion and Purity: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christ’s Control

“He is no fool who gives what he cannot keep to gain that which he cannot lose.” Jim Elliot, missionary to Auca indians in Ecuador” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, The Journals of Jim Elliot

“God never witholds from His child that which His love and wisdom call good. God’s refusals are always merciful — “severe mercies” at times but mercies all the same. God never denies us our hearts desire except to give us something better.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot

“To be a follower of the Crucified means, sooner or later, a personal encounter with the cross. And the cross always entails loss.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, These Strange Ashes

“Today is mine. Tomorrow is none of my business. If I peer anxiously into the fog of the future, I will strain my spiritual eyes so that I will not see clearly what is required of me now.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Keep a Quiet Heart

“Stand true to your calling to be a man. Real women will always be relieved and grateful when men are willing to be men” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, The Mark of a Man

“One reason we are so harried and hurried is that we make yesterday and tomorrow our business, when all that legitimately concerns us is today. If we really have too much to do, there are some items on the agenda which God did not put there. Let us submit the list to Him and ask Him to indicate which items we must delete. There is always time to do the will of God. If we are too busy to do that, we are too busy.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Secure in the Everlasting Arms

“Worship is not an experience. Worship is an act, and this takes discipline. We are to worship ”in spirit and in truth.” Never mind about the feelings. We are to worship in spite of them.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Let Me Be a Woman

“There is nothing worth living for, unless it is worth dying for.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot

“Work is a blessing. God has so arranged the world that work is necessary, and He gives us hands and strength to do it. The enjoyment of leisure would be nothing if we had only leisure. It is the joy of work well done that enables us to enjoy rest, just as it is the experiences of hunger and thirst that make food and drink such pleasures.” 
― Elisabeth Elliot, Discipline: The Glad Surrender

 

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(source) Daughter Valerie and Elisabeth in her later years and with the Auca Indians

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If I were to chose one to recommend to bolster the heart of a wife or mother, it would be Let Me Be a Woman.

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I used to catch Elisabeth‘s radio program which ran for 13 years. She never once failed to challenge my perspective and walk with the Lord. Her signature line was, “…and underneath are the everlasting arms,” (Deut. 33: 27)- the very place where she knew greatest security and contentment could be found, both in this life and the next.

And now, dear friend, you are resting safe in his arms. Christ and heaven’s glories are yours forevermore. The yearnings of your soul are finally fully realized. I long to join you in hearing those words, “Well done, good and faithful servant!” 

“‘For it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted to them his property. To one he gave five talents, to another two, to another one, to each according to his ability. Then he went away. He who had received the five talents went at once and traded with them, and he made five talents more. So also he who had the two talents made two talents more. But he who had received the one talent went and dug in the ground and hid his master’s money. Now after a long time the master of those servants came and settled accounts with them. And he who had received the five talents came forward, bringing five talents more, saying, ‘Master, you delivered to me five talents; here I have made five talents more.’ His master said to him, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant”  ~Matthew 25: 14-21

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The Time Spurgeon Almost Quit

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The Time Spurgeon Almost Quit

One day you will face adversity. Probably you already have or are in the midst of it now. It’s only a matter of time. How will you persevere through the oppressing, fiery moments of life? 

At the age of twenty-two, Charles Spurgeon almost quit the ministry.

He and his wife, Susannah, had been married less than one year. Their twin sons, Charles and Thomas, were infants. After three years in the big city, Spurgeon’s ministry had solicited envy from his opponents, admiration from the evangelicals, and criticism from the press. Susannah often hid the morning newspaper to prevent Charles from reading its headlines.

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The evening of October 19, 1856 commenced a season of unusual suffering for Spurgeon. His popularity had forced the rental of the Surrey Garden Music Hall [London] to hold the 12,000 people congregated inside. Ten thousand eager listeners stood outside the building, scrambling to hear his sermon. The event constituted one of the largest crowds gathered to hear a nonconformist preacher — a throwback to the days of George Whitefield.

Emotional Trial by ‘Fire!’

The service was underway when, during Spurgeon’s prayer, several malicious troublemakers shouted, “Fire! The galleries are giving way! The place is falling!” even though there was no fire. Continue reading

In the subsequent panic, Spurgeon attempted to quell the commotion, but seven people were trampled to death and twenty-eight were hospitalized with numerous serious injuries. Spurgeon, totally undone and “more dead than alive” himself, was literally carried from the pulpit and taken to a friend’s house where he remained for days in desperate depression.

“Even the sight of the Bible brought from me a flood of tears and utter distraction of mind.” The newspapers added to his emotional deterioration. “Mr. Spurgeon is a preacher who hurls damnation at the heads of his sinful hearers . . . a ranting charlatan.” By all accounts, “It might well seem that the ministry which promised to be so largely influential,” Spurgeon said, “was silenced for ever.”

A Radical Joy

When Spurgeon ascended the pulpit on November 2, two weeks later, he opened with a prayer. “We are assembled here, O Lord, this day, with mingled feelings of joy and sorrow. . . . Thy servant feared that he should never be able to meet this congregation again.”

Although he would never fully recover from this disaster,  Spurgeon’s ministry did not end on October 19, 1856.

Spurgeon’s joy was based not only on his own ability to recover, but on God’s ability to replenish. It was a joy that would balm Spurgeon in future controversies when he felt beleaguered and bewildered. The joy Spurgeon had after 1856 was a radical joy — a joy deeply rooted in the soil of the supremacy of the God who was great and grand enough to make good things come out of evil. As Joseph told his brothers, “You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives” (Genesis 50:20).

Where Is God During Suffering?

Spurgeon believed that since God is sovereign, there are no such things as accidents. However, he wasn’t fatalistic in his outlook: “Fate is blind; providence has eyes.” Unwavering trust in God’s sovereignty was essential for Spurgeon’s well-being:

“It would be a very sharp and trying experience to me to think that I have an affliction which God never sent me, that the bitter cup was never filled by his hand, that my trials were never measured out by him, not sent to me by his arrangement of their weight and quantity.” ~C.H.S.

He explained in 1873: “As long as I trace my pain to accident, my bereavement to mistake, my loss to another’s wrong, my discomfort to an enemy, and so on, I am of the earth, earthy, and shall break my teeth with gravel stones; but when I rise to my God and see his hand at work, I grow calm, I have not a word of repining.”

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The same God who called Spurgeon to London would not abandon him on the banks of the Thames River. On the contrary, God used this horrible event in his life to save the lives of countless others, for the widely circulated negative press put the young pastor’s preaching on England’s radar — and eventually on the world’s.

After his death, a telegraph alerted the world to Spurgeon’s passing. Evangelicals from differing theological tribes and traditions sent their condolences to Susannah.

The same newspapers that had once inflicted so much damage upon the young preacher’s ministry now offered recognition of a life well lived for others. One noted, “If every crowned head in Europe had died that night, the event would not be so momentous as the death of this one man.” Over 100,000 people passed by Spurgeon’s coffin at the Norwood Cemetery.

“We would have it so happen that, when our life’s history is written, whoever reads it will not think of us as “self-made men,” but as the handiwork of God, in whom his grace is magnified. Not in us may men see the clay, but the Potter’s hand.” ~Charles Spurgeon

“But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.” ~2 Corinthians 4: 7-8

Excerpts from the Desiring God article by Christian George.

I often read from Morning and Evening by Charles Spurgeon. With a reading to begin and end each day throughout the year, you will come to appreciate Spurgeon’s emphasis on the importance of abiding in Christ and meditating on God’s Word.

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Why Soy Infant Formula Is So Harmful To Babies

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Note: I know this is an emotionally charged issue. I have felt it myself as a mother. This post is in no way meant to judge or create fear over choices in the past or what you will choose to do in the future, but to arm you with knowledge and let YOU [the parents] decide. I am not a doctor and write this as a resource hoping what I’ve researched may help others asking questions and to share some alternatives. For 2 months when our twins were age 4 to 6 months I gave them a soy formula, temporarily stopping breast-feeding. I thought they had colic b/c of something I was eating and felt horrible thinking I was causing them pain. I wish I’d known the potential dangers of soy formula back then, but I have chosen to trust and be thankful that God had and still has it ALL in His control.

Why Soy Infant Formula Is So Harmful To Babies

I have never seen so many children with food allergies as I have in this last two generations – it’s now 1 in 5 by the age of 20! For most parents, the first evidence of food intolerance shows up when baby is given a milk-based formula.

The standard response by traditionally-trained American pediatricians is to put the baby on a soy infant formula such as Similac soy Isomil or ProSobee. 

Soy manufacturer’s marketing claims that soy provides complete protein that is ‘less allergenic than cows’ milk protein’ and that soy baby formula is “better than breast milk”, so following their doctor’s advice, many parents are quick to make the switch to soy formula anticipating that it will calm the upset their baby is experiencing on milk formula. Sadly, parents do not understand the full implication of their decision.

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I do not know of one formula-feeding mom who does not want the best for her infant, and she has chosen the only option she knows. Parents have a right to know how these excessive claims compare to scientific findings related to soy infant formula.

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Often, when a milk allergy already runs in the family, the parents are afraid to use a dairy formula with a new infant. However, milk-based formula would still be the first choice even in those situations as there is no evidence that using soy formula reduces the risk of a dairy allergy later

Even though soy-based artificial baby milks may be less allergenic for some babies, it is estimated that 50 percent of infants who are allergic to cow’s milk are also allergic to soy. Also, soy-based formulas contain corn syrup, and corn is a frequent allergen. For this reason, the Committee on Nutrition of the American Academy of Pediatrics still recommends against the use of soy formula in infants who are potentially allergic to cow’s milk. 

Why NOT Feed Your Infant Soy?

There are really three reasons to refrain for going the soy route: phytic acid, trypsin inhibitors, and phytoestrogens – the worst of all.

1. Phytic acid is present in the outer bran or seed coat of all seeds and blocks the absorption of critical minerals like calcium, magnesium, iron and particularly zinc. Soybeans have extremely high amounts, and it is unusually resistant to breaking down. As early as 1967, researchers testing soy formula found that it caused negative zinc balance in every infant to whom it was given.

Zinc is the intelligence mineral; it is required for optimal brain and neurological development. As a result, deficiency of this nutrient in infants at a time when the brain is growing at its most rapid rate could have lifelong implications and possibly reduce IQ. 

2. Like phytic acid, trypsin inhibitors are present in large amounts in soybeans. These inhibit digestion and absorption of nutrients. In the manufacturing process, trypsin inhibitors need application of high heat for extended periods of time to break down, but some remain in the final product and studies show their presence prevents normal growth in baby rats. Knowing that a baby’s brain and nervous system grows to about 75% of its full size in the first year, any retardation of normal growth development may be counter to helping your child reach his or her full potential.

3. The biggest danger of using soy are the phytoestrogens (plant estrogens called isoflavones) found in all soybeans whether organic, conventional or GMO. While these phytoestrogens are not bio-identical to human estrogens, they are close enough to cause hormone disruption,  and could *potentially (certainly not in every instance)* affect and alter an infant’s developing brain and physiology. [1,2,3,4,5,6]

Daniel Sheehan, PhD, the retired senior toxicologist at the US Food and Drug Administration’s National Center for Toxicological Research, made no understatement when he declared that “infants fed soy-based formulas have been placed at risk in a large, uncontrolled and basically unmonitored human infant experiment.” 

Almost 25% of American babies are fed soy baby formula.

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The Swiss Federal Health Service has stated that soy infant formula provides the hormonal equivalent of three to five birth control pills per day. The range is wide because some infants are hungrier than others, but it obviously represents a high dose of estrogen for anyone, and especially for infants whose very development requires the right hormones in the right place at the right time. [7]

In The Tragedy of Soy Infant Formula, the Weston A. Price Foundation concurs:

Toxicologists estimate that an infant exclusively fed soy formula receives the estrogenic equivalent of at least five birth control pills per day. By contrast, almost no phytoestrogens have been detected in dairy-based infant formula or in human milk, even when the mother consumes soy products. A recent study found that babies fed soy-based formula had 13,000 to 22,0000 times more isoflavones in their blood than babies fed milk-based formula.

What does the soy industry say to all this?

It publicly scoffs at the idea of adverse effects and privately fund studies designed to hide the adverse effects of soy. Soy is a $4 billion [U.S.] industry that’s taken these health claims to the bank.

Baby Boys On Soy Formula

The phytoestrogens in soy can interfere with the testosterone surge that occurs during a boy’s first 3-4 months of life. So much testosterone at this age is needed to program males for puberty, the time when their sex organs should develop and he should begin to express the male characteristics of facial, pubic hair, and deepening voice.

Boy’s receptor sites are intended for the hormone testosterone, but if they are occupied by soy estrogens instead, appropriate development may never takes place.

Sales of soy formulas have seen a steep growth trend for more than 30 years, so it is probably not coincidental that pediatricians are reporting greater numbers of boys whose physical maturation is either delayed or does not occur at all. Breasts, behavioral problems, underdeveloped gonads, and cryptorchidism (undescended testicles) are increasingly common. Sperm counts are way down, and sperm quality has also declined. [8]

Pediatricians are seeing so many of these over-estrogenized boys today that they’ve come us with the term “Developmental Estrogenization Syndrome” and “Testicular Dysgenesis Syndrome”. [9]

We now know that soy is not the only culprit. Environmental chemicals in plastics, pesticides, factory-farmed meats and tap water all play roles in the estrogenizing of our men.

Abundant soy phytoestrogens from infancy also have been linked to rising rates of ADD/ADHD, learning disabilities, and visual spatial orientation difficulties. [10,11,12,13]

Baby Girls On Soy Formula

What about baby girls on soy infant formula?

We’ve seen a tremendous rise in precocious puberty, which is defined as puberty occurring in white girls under the age of 7 and African-American girls under the age of 6. [14] In 1901, the normal age of onset of menses was 13-14. Environmental estrogens from plastics and pesticides have also been implicated.

These little girls are being robbed of their carefree girlhood. Soy formula-fed baby girls are more likely to have lifelong menstrual and reproductive problems (primarily longer and more painful periods), anovulatory cycles (cycles in which no egg is released), amenorrhea (failure to menstruate), impaired follicular development (follicles failing to mature and develop into healthy eggs), erratic hormonal surges, changes associated with infertility, and other health problems.

As breast tissue depends on estrogen for development and functioning, the presence of soy estrogens at a susceptible time likely predispose girls to breast cancer, another condition that is on the rise and definitively linked to early puberty. [15,16]

Finding Direction

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It’s outrageous that most conventional baby formulas in the store contain GMOs (via corn and soy) and milk from cows treated with antibiotics or artificial growth hormones. Even organic formulas aren’t great with some containing carrageenan, synthetic preservatives, refined sugars with detectable levels of arsenic, and DHA extracted with hexane.

I’ve talked with parents who mistakenly believe that genetically-modified soy is the main problem and that buying organic soy formula is protective for their infant. In a helpful and detailed read, nutrition expert Charlotte Vallaeys explores what organic formulas offer as a safer alternative. 

I hope this inspires you to consider breastfeeding or if you are unable to breastfeed your baby, to choose this safer store-bought formula: Baby’s Only Organic Formula.

Some Alternatives To Consider Including WAPF’s Broth-Based Formula

Several Mamas I know are making their own baby formula (Weston A. Price Foundation has several recipes). In the event your baby has a true milk allergy, a video shows how to make a hypoallergenic meat based formula. Human milk sharing is becoming more and more popular with social media making it increasingly easy to connect donors and recipients. Check out “Human Milk 4 Human Babies and “Eats on Feets.

In my humble opinion, soy baby formula should be used only when all other options are exhausted…as a last resort.

  1. Daniel, Kaayla T. op cit, 331–378. Overview of the scientific literature on the effects of soy formula and soy foods on male and female reproductive system development with 201 references.
  2. Ibid. 295-309 and 331-378.
  3. Franke, AA, Custer LG et al. Quantification of phytoestrogens in legumes by HPLC. J Agric Food Chem, 1994, 42, 1905-13.
  4. Markiewicz J, Garey J et al. In vitro bioassays of non-steroidal phytoestrogens. J Steroids Biochem Mol Biol, 1993, 45, 5, 399-405.
  5. Irvine CHG, Fitzpatrick MG, Alexander SL. Phytoestrogens in soy-based infant foods: concentrations, daily intake and possible biological effects. Proc Soc Exp Biol Med, 1998, 217, 247-253.
  6. Setchell KDR, Zimmer-Nechemias L et al. Exposure of infants to phyto-oestrogens from soy-based infant formula. Lancet, 1997, 350, 9070.
  7. Office of the Swiss Federal Health Service Bulletin #28, July 20, 1992.
  8. Sharpe R, Shakkeback N. Are oestrogens involved in falling sperm counts and disorders of the male reproductive tract? Lancet, 1993, 341, 1292-1345.
  9. Baskin, Laurence, ed. Hypospadias and Genital Development, Advances in Experimental Biology and Medicine, vol 545. (N.Y. Kluwer Academic/Plenum Publishers, 2004. The definitive textbook.
  10. Daniel, Kaayla T. op cit, 331–378. Overview of the scientific literature on the effects of soy formula and soy foods on male and female reproductive system development with 201 references.
  11. Hines M. Hormonal and neural correlates of sex-typed behavioral development in human beings. In Marc Haug, ed. The Development of Sex Differences and Similarities in Behavior (Dordrecht, Kluwer Academic, 1993). 131-147.
  12. Harrison PJ, Everall IP et al. Is homosexuality hardwired? Sexual orientation and brain structure. Psych Med, 1994, 24, 811-16.
  13. Lund TD, West TW et al. Visual spatial memory is enhanced in female rats BMC Neurosci, 2001, 1, 1-13.
  14. Giddens, Herman et al. Secondary sexual characteristics and menses in young girls seen in office practice. Study from the Pediatric Research in Office Settings Network, 1997, 99, 4, 505-512.
  15. Fallon, S, Daniel KT, Sanda W. Responses to Docket 2004Q-0151 Solae Company Health Claim on Cancer. Documents submitted to the FDA, June 14, 2004, January 20, 2005 and April 11, 2005. Posted at www.westonaprice.org under “Soy Alert.”
  16. Daniel, Kaayla T. The Whole Soy Story: The Dark Side of America’s Favorite Health Food (New Trends, 2004). Includes about 200 real-life horror stories that will make you run screaming into your kitchen and toss out anything with soy on the label!

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 Could It Happen In Your Home? / The Duggar Scandal

This guest post by Cari Dugan is shared here with her permission. While a very difficult and often embarrassing topic, parents, vigilance – without-fear – is the order of the day.

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Before the Duggar Scandal becomes last week’s news,  I have a question for you all…

And no, it has nothing to do with if I think Josh is still responsible for his actions as a teen? Or if I think the way his parents handled the situation was right? Or if Anna should pack her bags and run for the hills? It is a messy, and heartbreaking situation that leaves me utterly pained and speechless. Sexual abuse is evil, it ruins families and it destroys people.

What I want to know is this…

What is going on in YOUR home? At YOUR church? At YOUR playground? 

Did you know that statistically 1 out of 5 girls, and 1 out of 20 boys are reported to have been sexually abused ? And that roughly 63% of their predators are family members, or close friends?

Shocked? You shouldn’t be.

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This isn’t a new problem. It is an horrific , and troubling age-old one. Sexual abuse is rampant. And it often happens under our very noses, in our own homes. Yes. In our own homes. Behind closed doors, under comfy blankets, and under the pine tree in the backyard. While your children sleep.

Yet, it is often ignored simply by our ignorance and naivety . How often have we seen a heart-wrenching case like the Duggars and say, “Not me. Not my children. Not my family. “So we close our laptops, shut off the tv, and go on with our own lives thinking,  “Thank God I don’t have to face that kind of horror in my four walls.”  And breathe a sigh of relief.

I am sorry to say but your home is not invisible. Sadly, neither is mine.

So with staggering statistics as these, how can we possibly protect our children? How can we safeguard them from becoming another victim?

I believe we can at least try to with awareness and prevention.

Properly educate your child on their bodies with proper verbiage. Does saying p—- or v—– embarrass you? My suggestion is to get over it and get over it fast. Giving correct bodily names inhibits an abuser to keep a victim quiet if an incident should occur.

Children should learn to know that their bodies were made for them, and for them alone. We should teach our kids to love and respect their own bodies, but we should also teach them to respect other’s bodies as well. Clearly define what behavior is appropriate and what is not.

However,  you can’t define behavior if you don’t talk about it. Sex should not be a curiosity. But refusing to bring up the subject makes it a dangerous one. Especially when children approach puberty, and so many hormonal changes are occurring. If you aren’t fostering an environment where questions can be asked, Google will. And that is one place you don’t want them to receive their education from. Quench their natural curiosity with truth.

We can safeguard our kids by empowering them to be their own advocates.  Encourage your children to trust their own instincts. I know it is well-intentioned, but I inwardly cringe when a parent scolds a child for not greeting me with a hug. If you find your son or daughter wary of an adult, give them permission to set up their own boundaries. In other words, don’t ever force a child to be physical with someone against their own will. Even if that adult is a trusted family member or close friend. Giving them the lead only reinforces the fact that they are in charge of their own bodies, and that “No” means NO.

Teach them that if anyone approaches them with a question that is inappropriate or makes them feel yucky or uneasy to run to you as fast as they can. Scream. Yell. Kick. Claw. A child should know to do whatever it takes to flee from a potential abuser.

Again, they don’t know this if you don’t tell them. So talk to your children. Prayerfully and purposefully.

Also, be aware of sudden attitude changes or emotions that seem out of character. Sometimes a child isn’t always able to verbalize what is bothering them, so their feelings come out subtly in other actions. Maybe they are more moody than normal, maybe they don’t want to eat, or have separation anxiety, or their grades do a sudden dip in school. Pay attention, listen, and ask the hard questions.

I repeat, ask the hard questions. Even if you are fearful of what those answers may be. A simple question may be what stops abuse from occurring or reoccurring. Sometimes a child won’t talk about abuse because he/she truly believes they are at fault, and guilty somehow. Shame keeps them from coming forward, so the abuse continues. Make sure to assure your child again and again, that if someone touches their body inappropriately that they are NEVER to blame.

Discourage family secrets. Or any secrets for that matter. Encourage open and free conversation. Let your little ones know that they can come to you to discuss any issue, at any time. Also, be sure to point out other “safe” adults that they trust that they can talk to as well. No topic should be banned from the household, including questions and concerns about sex.

Give Them A Voice

Don’t let your guard down, EVER.  Even in your own home. Monitor play-dates, limit sleepovers to a few that you wholeheartedly trust and still be watchful, and initiate an open door rule when children are playing and company is over. In our home we have also initiated the no closet rule. Innocent games like doctor and house make my mama radar sound off. Paranoid? Maybe. I’d rather ere on the side of prevention and caution, than my children being scarred.

Sometimes we can be the best of parents, yet still we are unable to prevent abuse. The thought is truly heartbreaking and causes me to lose sleep at night. The unfortunate news, as with the Duggar scandal, is that we can’t be in all places at all times. We also aren’t in control of other’s malicious intentions, which is a sobering reality.

But IF it happens in your home, with YOUR child, please seek professional help immediately. For both for the abuser AND the victim. Don’t sweep the abuse under the carpet as if it never happened. Don’t simply scold and move on. Don’t EVER place blame on the victim. And most certainly don’t allow the victim and abuser to continue to live together.

Fight for your children, Mamas. Even if your pride and reputation is at stake, even if it is the most difficult thing you’ve ever had to do.

Why?

Because your children’s lives hold value and they need to know it. They need to know that you will go to the end of the earth for their protection, and for their welfare. That you will fight for them until your knuckles bleed. They need to know that they are loved.

Protection from sexual abuse starts with you, Moms and Dads. As your little one’s primary caretaker you are responsible for their safety. So be aware. Be present. Pay attention.

Know What goes On In Your Home!

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“For he will deliver the needy who cry out, the afflicted who have no one to help.” ~Psalm 72:12

“If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him.” ~James 1:5

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